The Poison of Racism: Disrespect

There are of course many negative impacts of racism.  The two most frequently noted are discrimination – not allowing people to live the lives they want to live – and violence, both physical and verbal.

But there is another impact which, although less frequently discussed, is in some ways even more pernicious than either discrimination or violence: disrespect.   I am not talking here of the disrespect that whites show people of color in various ways, but the disrespect that people of color come to have of themselves.

It is a well-established scientific/psychological fact that if you tell someone often enough, especially in their formative years, that they are bad, inferior, or any quality, that person's mind will absorb that label as part of their self-image.   Blacks have for centuries been treated with disrespect, not just as slaves, but also during the entire period since slavery ended.   

While the government has passed a variety of civil rights laws and the Supreme Court has spoken on the equality of blacks, and their lives have in many ways improved, there has been little change overall in the attitude of disrespect towards blacks shown by individual citizens and the culture, the centrality of Black music and performers in the entertainment industry notwithstanding.   The result is that many Blacks carry a lack of respect for themselves in their subconscious, regardless their coping skills, their success, and how they present themselves in public. 

For some  time, it has been politically incorrect, certainly outside the South, to use the "N" word when talking to a Black.   Such use would make the disrespect shown the person obvious, and that is not socially acceptable.  This admonition obviously does not change how the person feels, he just can't verbalize it.  In private, the use of the "N" word is still prevalent accept among liberals.

However, Blacks frequently use the "N" word amongst themselves and justify its use by calling it a term of endearment or by saying only they can use the word and that their use is not racist, 

I respectfully disagree.   Whenever i have heard the 'N' word used by blacks, mostly in plays but also in real life, the tone of voice used has never sounded like it was a term of endearment, and although a Black may not be a racist for using the term, he is certainly showing a lack of respect towards the other person, conjuring up all the stereotypes that use of the term by whites implies. 

In anticipation of the push back my argument will face, both from Blacks and liberal whites, I would note that Jesse Jackson's "Black is Beautiful" movement in the 1960s and 70s and Nina Simone's anthem, "To Be Young, Gifted, and Black," were both meant to counter the internalized disrespect that afflicted Black youth.   

Unfortunately, the movement was short-lived and did not broadly succeed.   Instead, what we have seen, starting in the 90s, are rappers who use all the language of disrespect, especially towards Black women, in their songs.   Jackson and Simone would "roll over in their graves" if they heard this music. 

Which brings me to the use of the word "bitch" by rappers and others.   Regardless what they may say to justify their use of this term, it is never used in a way which indicates endearment and is always a term of disrespect and subservience.

As a comparative point of reference, i would note that I (and I am Jewish) have never heard a Jew in any context use any of the racist anti-semitic terms towards another Jew.   There are certainly some Jewish anti-semites and certainly there is much dissension and division, often heated, within the jewish people, but i have never even in such moments or otherwise heard a racist term thrown at a fellow Jew. 

Regarding gays, while internalized homophobia is fairly common among gays (and yes, I'm gay), although less so than it used to be, the quite common)use of the term "fag" among gays (or at least it was when I circulated more in gay circles) was almost always used as a term of endearment; the tone of voice was never one of disrespect or disgust. 

The motto of the United Negro College Fund is, "A mind is a terrible thing to waste."  I   would say in s similar vein that a human being is a terrible thing to waste, and to disrespect is to waste.   Every person, regardless of skin color or background or status, should be exposed to uplifting spiritual mentoring that results in his or her feeling nothing but respect for themselves, regardless what the world around them says.

The Problem with Post-WWII American Housing Development

Prior to WWII, towns and cities were designed the old-fashioned way.   The city founder or leadership laid out the streets and, increasingly after the early 1900s, created zoning to control what was built where.   Even suburbs started in the same way, as small, self-contained, towns on the outskirts of a city. 

After WWII, with the development of the Interstate Highway System, the process changed drastically.   Before, as a town or city grew, the new residential and commercial districts were an extension of the existing infrastructure network, with everything centered on the city center and local neighborhoods.   Now, with new highways to and out of cities, the surrounding countryside was opened up to large-scale development geared to commuters, separated from the town's infrastructure.. 

These new developments, plopped down most often in what used to be a farm field, had no direct connection with any existing town or city, nor was such a connection needed since now everyone used a car for all transportation.   Whether it was getting to work, going shopping, going out to eat, or any daily task, no one outside of the old cities or towns used public transport, let alone walked.   If a family had 3 adults and children of driving age, it became the norm for the family to have 3 cars, since each person needed a car to get about. 

Long gone were the days when I was a child living in a small suburb of Reading, Pennsylvania.   I walked to school and everything within a mile or so.   To get downtown, I took the bus.   My mother did the same; she used the bus for all her shopping downtown, food and otherwise. And she continued that till her early 90s. 

The question is, why didn't post-WWII developers develop new towns in the old manner, with a core of shopping with residential areas surrounding, all connected with sidewalks as well as streets?   Or if a smaller development, walkable with at least a real general store (not a convenience store) and public transportation into the town?

The answer, I fear, is a very simple one.   It is much more economical and simpler to build a Levittown or modern-style development consisting solely of housing duplicated over and over again, rather than planning a town with all of its infrastructure and commercial needs.   Commercial development became a specialty of its own with shopping malls totally separated from housing development, again geared to the automobile. 

The answer in other words is money.   Developers are not interested in what is best for a community, they are only interested in making the most money as quickly as possible.   And since there seemed to be no hesitation on the part of city-dwellers to move to these new isolated and sterile developments with their spanking-new homes and lawns, they could do as they wanted,

And so we have ended up with a nation of small er larger developments, all dependent on the car, all with no or virtually no services contained within them and disconnected from the towns or cities in the area except by highway.   When you look at Google Earth, not just in the NE megalopolis, but everywhere, even the Florida Keys, this is what you see.   

In the process we have not only allowed the destruction of precious nature and good farmland, but we have changed the way Americans live, the way they buy food and shop, the way they get to school, and the exercise they got naturally just by going about their daily tasks. 

We also have created sensory impoverishment.   The sensory vitality that used to exist has been replaced by the numbing sameness of chain stores and big box stores with their constantly intrusive music and the mega-parking lots that surround them. 

Let me give you an example of the sensory vitality that used to exist.   When I was growing up in the 50s, while there were two smaller chain grocery stores downtown there was a locally owned grocery that harked back to a previous age.   They roasted their own coffee and so when you walked into the shop your senses were greeted by that wonderful smell, as well as the sight of all the wonderful home-made things they were selling. 

But most of all, there was the year-round farmers market where my mother did most of her food shopping.   At its peak in the 50s the market had hundred of stalls, with your choice of green grocers, butchers, poulterers, fish purveyors, and specialty foods.   My mother over time found her favorites and they always greeted her by name with a smile.   

Accompanying my mother to the market was a treat because of all the people milling about, the different stalls with their beautifully displayed goods, and all the different types of people who manned the stalls – different ethnicities, different religions (the Amish and Methodists were present) with accompanying different clothing and speech patterns.   

In addition to the food markets, there was an abundance of locally-owned stores downtown that provided just about any product that one could possibly need.  And they were usually staffed by the owner(s) who provided a very different ambiance and social interaction than one gets in a modern chain store.

It was a real, enriching, sensory experience.   What does a child have today?   A bland sameness in his environment and only his screen to stimulate his senses. 

All of these modern ways of development, together with the omnipresence of technology, has resulted in a debasement of the human experience.    While we are not yet automatons, we are fast approaching that state, cogs in a vast machine that is our economic and social system.   

Not only is this not the way things were as recently as 60-70 years ago, this is not the way things had to develop with modernity.   Nothing about modern improvements necessitated the removal of so much quality from our lives

But almost no one, neither local officials nor consumers, seem to care..